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| They say that I will die young01/01/12 at 08:13 AM by Roadie |
All my life, I have been hearing things said about me that no one wants to hear. The things being said have the same context to them: they are all assumptions. Some are true, but most are not. I question if the new one is; and if it is, I am scared out of my mind. The new assumption that I am hearing is 'that I will die young.'
Whether I like it or not, I have earned this comment. I am always in some form of pain. I have been battling depression and anxiety all of my life, have been battling back pain for the last ten years, have breathing problems, have constant teeth and gum problems, have severely tight light muscles that I am told will snap any minute, among other things. Pain, a constant issue. Whether it is the physical pain that I feel when I wake up in severe back pain and wishing that I didn't have to get up or the mental pain of just wishing that I wont wake up on some days because of my depression. My depression gets that bad.
Lately my pain has been getting worse than normal. I have been peeing blood and am constantly singing songs about how I want to die. Everyday I wake up with a muscle pain or body ache that cries out of a pain pill. Back pain, knotted leg muscles, or the feeling of an old broken bone on a cold day. Life is messed up but it is made worse by the fact that I am holding it in. I hate doctors and every time I tell them that I am in back pain, they seem to think that I am making it up. They prescribe me pain pills as if they are throwing shit at the wall and seeing what sticks. My insurance sucks and I am not interested in waiting in a room for three hours only to be prescribed pain pills that I already have in my medicine cabinet that I didn't use from the last time I was there. I hate going to a therapist because I became romantically involved with my therapist when I was 18. If I tell people my state of mine, they will probably throw me in the mental hospital and I don't want that stigma attached to me.
When I do let out my pain, I get sympathy, am told to go to a hospital, or am told that I bitch too much. Either way, I don't like the result. So lately, I have been trying to just hide it. It is pretty hard because there are days when I am in too much pain to walk.
The stress of all of this is too much. For the most part, it consumes me; but I know that if I let it consume me that I will die young. | |
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| k08/15/11 at 07:28 PM by Roadie |
I went to the cemetery today where the funeral was. The place-marker is still there honoring her. I don't know what happened to her body and it doesn't bother me. I just want a place to go to honor her and I have that. I didn't attend the burial part of the funeral. I have regrets about that, among other things about how I handled her death. I never went to see her at the hospital.
When I was at the cemetery yesterday, I experienced every emotional possible and broke down. It would have been nothing but I had a friend with me. The cemetery closed at 5pm and we got there at 4:55. It took forever to find the place-marker. I almost gave up then as I was walking to the car, I found it. I broke down completely. I experienced every emotion possible within the minutes I was sitting there.
I almost left without seeing the place marker just like I did at the funeral, was selfish and didnt give all the effort to see her marker just like the hospital days. I thought of everything I did at woodlake.I thought of how I never got a picture with her and me. I wanted to get her jack in the box order and leave it there. I couldnt find a jack in simi near the cemetery so I made the promise that I would buy her order then give it to a homeless guy. (Worked out that I didn't buy it because I had 20 dollars to my name and wouldn't have been able to afford our plans of going to a dinner and a movie after. My friend asked me to take her to simi to meet her friend who is eight months pregnant and I said sure as long as we could stop by the cemetery) Basically the only thing that I didnt regret was that she knew I loved her and I always made a point to tell her how much I appreciated her. (My friend Heather walked around looking at every plot in the radius that I thought it was and didn't see it. We overlooked it big time, probably five times).
(My first trip to the cemetery it was raining and I had no idea where the place marker was. I got lucky and found her really quick. If I broke down then, it was nothing like what happened yesterday.)
Woodlake wasn't as much a huge regret looking back as much as it was my wild years. I did a lot of things I regret but for every regret, I learned two things about life. It was almost like my college days (and now my college days are my work days because I apply myself so hard). | |
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| wow07/13/11 at 09:17 PM by Roadie |
Wow, it has been almost a year since I updated this thing? Some people that I give a shit about read it so I feel like a tool. Well if those people are still around, here is the jist:
- I don't live in Lancaster right now, I live in Canyon Country
- I am in school. Straight A student at antelope valley college. 22 units, although I am taking summer school and am on pace for my first B.
If you guys are around, look me up on facebook. ddubay@avc.edu or facebook.com/pandanwh | |
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| | ntc07/24/10 at 09:20 PM by Roadie |
With the MLB trade deadline coming up, all we hear is about people with limited no trade clauses. Well I was thinking about which teams would be on my list.
MLB
1. Colorado Rockies
2. Atlanta Braves
3. Tampa Bay Rays
4. San Francisco Giants
5. Florida Marlins
6. Pittsburgh Pirates
7. Kansa City Royals
8. Milwaukee Brewers
9. Seattle Mariners
10. Texas Rangers
Picked Rangers and Mariners because they have long distances to travel. SF because I am a Dodger fan. I don't want to live in Hurricane Country so Rays, Marlins, and Braves were stricken from list. If I was a proffessional player, my goal would be to be a role model; as a role model I would not want to have beer makers on my chest. Pittsburgh and Kansas City were purely for competitive reasons, although I don't go out of my way to cheer for either ever. Colorado for alttude reasons.
NBA
1. Denver Nuggets
2. New Orleans Hornets
3. Atlanta Hawks
4. Miami Heat
5. Toronto Raptors
6. Orlando Magic
7. Washington Wizards
8. Portland Trail Blazers
9. Minnesota Timberwolves
10. Utah Jazz
NHL
1. Atlanta Thrashers
2. Florida Panthers
3. Colorado Avalanche
4. Nashville Predators
5. St. Louis Blues
6. Columbus Blue Jackets
7. Vancouver Canucks
8. Dallas Stars
No 9 and 10 because I really don't care. Hurricane reasons and divisional travel.
NFL
1. New York Giants
2. Tampa Bay Buccaneers
3. Atlanta Falcons
4. Indianapolis Colts
5. Dallas Cowboys
6. New Orleans Saints
7. Seattle Seahawks
8. Green Bay Packers
9. Jacksonville Jaguars
Only 9 teams that I wouldn't think about playing for unless I am desperate to stay in the league are above. However if I am good enough to have a no trade clause, I wouldn't have that problem. | |
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| quotes07/11/10 at 12:35 AM by Roadie |
It ain't what you eat, but the way you chew it.
Delbert McClinton
My only hope lies in my despair
Jean Racine
In war there is no substitute for victory
Douglas MacArthur
To appreciate heaven, 'tis good for a man to have some fifteen minutes of hell
Will Carleton
Success generally depends on knowing how long it takes to succeed
Montesquieu
If at first you don't succeed, you are running about average
M. H. Alderson
In order to win you must be prepared to lose sometime. And leave one or two cards showing
Van Morrison
The minute you start talking about what you're going to do if you lose, you have lost.
George Schultz
By indignities men come to dignities
Francis Bacon
A strong and well-constituted man digests his experiences (deeds and misdeeds all included) just as he digests his meats, even when he has some tough morsels to swallow."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Rge only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary
Vidal Sassoon
It's a little like wrestling a gorilla. You don't quit when you're tired-you quit when the gorilla is tired.
Robert Strauss
Facts do not cease because they are ignored
Aldous Huxley
If you don't do it excellently, don't do it at all. Because if it's not excellent, it won't be profitable or fun, and if you're not in business for fun or profit, what the hell are you doing there?
Robert Townsend
You have to perform at a consistently higher level than other. That's the mark of a true professional.
Joe Paterno
He who stops being better stops being good
Oliver Cromwell
You cannot manage men into battle. You manage things; you lead people
Grace Murray Hopper
It's what you learn after you know it all that counts
John Wooden
He that will not apply new remedies must expect new evils
Francis Bacon
Don't brood on what's past, but don't forget it either
Thomas H. Raddal
Some of us are like wheelbarrows-only useful when pushes, and very easily upset
Jack Herbert
The object of war is not to die for your country, but to make the other bastard die for his
General George Patton
Fortune favors the bold
Virgil
Impossible is a word to be foundonly in the dictionary of fools
Napoleon Bonaparte
The uncommitted life isn't worth living
Marhsall Fishwick
Great ideas need landing gear as well as wings
C.O. Jackson
A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds
Francis Bacon
It is a rough road that leads to the heights of greatness
Seneca
I may not be the lion, but it was left to me to giv the lion's roar
Winston Churchill
A president is constantly on top of events or, if he hesitates, events will soon be on top of him. I never felt that I could let up for a single moment
Harry Truman
The privlege of a lifetime is being who you are
Joseph Campbell
A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams
John Barrymore
Success is never final
Winsron Churchill
Nothing so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task
William Jones
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there
Will Rogers
Everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die
Joe Louis
Character is destiny
Heraclitus
Between two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before
Mae West
The first and great commandment is, Don't let them scare you
Elmer Davis
You've got to sing
Like you don't need the money.
You've got to love
Like you'll never get hurt.
You've got to dance
Like there's nobody watching
You've got to come from the heart
If you want it to work
Susanna Clark
Give what you have. To someone, it may be better than you dare to think.
Longfellow
Being on the tightrope is living; everything else is waiting
Karl Wallenda
You can become a winner only if you are willing to walk over the edge
Damon Runyon
To be prepared is half the victory
Miguel Cervantes
One man with courage makes a majority
Andrew Jackson
You need to play with supreme confidence, or else you'll lose again, and then losing becomes a habit
Joe Paterno
I'm a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have it
Thomas Jefferson
I would sooner fail than not be among the greatest
John Keats
Fate leads him who follow it, and drags him who resists
Plutarch | |
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| Having a beer to celebrate07/09/10 at 11:24 PM by Roadie |
While one can never be over the loss of a loved one, I have hit a point where I think that I have let go of Mrs. Rose. For the longest time, I obviously grieved like I wished that she was still alive. While I still wish that she was alive, I am finally ready to live my life without.
What triggered this? Well I had a dream. I had a dream where I was working in her classroom and she told me to go to the teachers lounge to celebrate. There is beer in there. She would not go in with me, and would not be out when I come back. She was telling me to let go.
So I am having a beer. I will never truly get over her. She was like a parent to me. I am letting mrcameronrose.com expire, I am going on my own path.
Look me up on facebook: email is mrcameronrose@hotmail.com That email will probably die but it is my mail account associated with my facebook | |
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| x06/04/10 at 02:06 PM by Roadie |
Things are getting crazy. Honestly, I am on the verge of putting a gun in my mouth. I am struggling to find a job. Everyday I envy people that are in a coma.
Nick is having massive trouble at school. It just goes to show how much of an influence I was in his life. I pulled back when shit hit the fan with Ms Rodriguez. I am seeing how much Nick needs me. It is a shame. It is probably good for both of us but he is drowning. The school staff is treating him bad, the kids are, and his grades are suffering.
My life is falling apart. I need help. | |
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| quotes05/31/10 at 12:31 AM by Roadie |
"great men are meteors designed to burn so that earth may be lighted"
-Napoleon
"The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer everybody else up."
-Mark Twain
"Power is not revealed by striking hard or often, but by striking true."
-Honoré de Balzac | |
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| catchin up04/26/10 at 11:41 PM by Roadie |
| I know that it has been forever since I updated this thing. Not sure if I talked about putting my dog but Simba is gone and its been a while. In February I got a girlfriend, in March we broke up. Long story, nutty girl. I have been on a few dates since with other girls. Turns out that I have been dating more than I ever did in Woodland Hills. My dad died 10 days ago. I didn't go to his funeral because it was 900 miles away. Emotions have been running dry. Hope to catch up on this later, I have a massive headache. | |
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| Simple Goal List02/07/10 at 01:42 AM by Roadie |
RIGHT NOW
be more social
stop feeling sorry for being fucked over so much and be the one who walks over people
promote myself (as a tutor, coach, boy toy)
2 years
Have a degree or be on path for a degree in
Not live with mom
3 or 4 years
know the girl that I am going to marry
Ongoing but before I turn 30
finish the "perfect" graduation song that you have been working on
write a book
finish a script
get my teeth straight
do something grand
10 years
Have enough money to support my family
30 years
retire | |
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| .r01/22/10 at 09:10 PM by Roadie |
My mood is so down that I don't know what to do. I have been trying to reach out to people for help only to be turned away and shot down.
I am so depressed that my body is turning on me. My ears are bleeding and I wake up with blood in my mouth (Not from chapped lips). I am constantly spitting out blood. I have a cup of water next to my bed and when I wake up I see the water is all red, and my lips marks on the cup are stained from blood.
Mrs. Rodriguez has turned on me, my family is no help, my social anxiety killed off all my friends, and the few friends that I do have are far away.
All I want to do is cry. I feel helpless with my anxiety and what my body is doing to me. I seriously want to go to sleep and never wake up.
I have been doing some productive things with my life but they are not making me feel any better.
I realize that I have no fall back and I am freaking out about it. I know that I have to prove myself to the world and build my nest. It's not that I am afraid of the hard work, in fact part of me is looking forward to it. I just don't know how my body will handle it. I know that I will not wake up and my body will miraculously be 100%. In the past 24 years of my life, I have taken such horrible care of myself that I am regretting it.
I don't want to sit and feel helpless like my mom. I want to do great things in life. I know that I have to do these great things or I will end up a 30 year old virgin working at Wal Mart. Of all the things in life that scares me, that scares me the most.
I have gotten off my ass but now that I have all I want to do is cry and go hide. I need to follow through but how far can I go on my own motivation that I never really had before. Being screwed by Mrs. Rodriguez has put me through a loop. I feel like no one has my back despite the fact that I will go to war for most people. I seriously would have taken a bullet for her and where did that loyalty get me, sitting here feeling sorry myself and wishing that I was dead. | |
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| r01/20/10 at 08:23 PM by Roadie |
Took a big step today. I finally went to mount sinai and saw where Mrs. Rose was laid to rest.
Went to Mrs. Rose's grave in rainy conditions. She didn't have a tombstone so it was really hard to find it. I walked 100 yards in 2 different directions only to realize that by the time I found it, it was one of the closest ones to my car. Despite bing surrounded by buried people, alone, in the rain, and having no idea where to find her: I was completely at peace. I feel guilty for not crying but I kissed her grave, cleaned it, and took a rock that was near it as a souvenir. I am really glad that I went, I wish that I was there more. | |
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| my definition of love01/15/10 at 06:02 PM by Roadie |
| I want to make something clear, I lax as hell with my definition of love. I love my friends, I love the people that admire, I love my boss, I love my animals, I love my sisters. Love: admire, worship, will have the person's back, will go above and beyond for that person. I love my brother's teacher because I have a bond with her, I care for her. | |
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| silly me01/15/10 at 01:18 AM by Roadie |
| I fucked up and ruined a great thing. Silly me, I thought that I was doing a nice thing. It blows up in my face and I ruin something special. Fuck. If I could go back in time and take it back, I would. I feel like shit. I did not mean to hurt her. Now part of my life will be ruined. | |
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