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11:30 AM on 12/04/12 
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Alright so how most of these stories start out, my girlfriend broke up with me in late October. We only dated for a little over a month and a half but it was a very intense relationship from the start. We were pretty serious and she said I love you after only a few weeks. Soon after I said it back which is a big deal for me because I don't take saying that lightly and I don't take relationships in general lightly ( I don't date just to date). Everything seemed to going perfect until a couple days before we broke up. She found out that one of her parents is really sick and most likely won't be getting better. She had known that her parent was sick but it wasn't until then that basically she knew that the outcome wasn't looking positive. We broke up because she said that she needed to figure out how to cope and become more stable and that she couldn't give me one hundred percent right now. Of course I was devastated and still am. I love this girl and feel that we belong together. We still talk all the time and even hang out usually once a week. I've stayed over at her house a few nights and we've kissed one night since we've been broken up. We still sometimes cuddle on the couch when I come over or if I stay over. I let her initiate almost all of the text messages though because I don't want to seem desperate or bother her. But I'm going crazy over here. I seriously sit around and just hope that she'll text me or ask me to hang out ( think Emery-the ponytail parade if you know the song). It's pathetic I know but I just can't ever get my mind off of her. Which leads me the next part...

This breakup wouldn't be as hard on me if I had my group of friends here to hang out with and occupy my mind and time. I lived away from home for college though and just recently moved back so all of my friends are 4 hours away. I seriously have no friends here. All of my old high friends are getting married and having kids and we haven't talked in years except for the occasional happy birthday. The one friend I did have I cut ties with because she tried to sabotage the aforementioned relationship. I did finally get a part time job so that helps a little bit but I just feel like I'm waiting on something that might never come and it keeps me up every single night.

I plan on moving away and going to grad school (if I get accepted) but that wouldn't be until next August. Right now I'm stuck living at home which is already hard for me. I've been used to living on my own for four years and now living at home sucks except for the saving money part. I just really don't know what to do about anything. I want her back more than anything but I don't want to rush her and screw things up or ruin what ever sort of relationship we have right now.

That's the short version ha so if you read all of his, thanks. I just needed to get a few things off my mind since I have no one to talk to about any of this.
12:15 PM on 12/04/12 
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If this girl really loves you, then she wouldn't break up with you just because she's going through tough times. All you can do is assure her that you understand how hard it is to lose a loved one, and help her get through that. If you two are meant to be together, then a death in the family shouldn't tear you apart, it should just bring you closer... be her shoulder to lean on
02:26 PM on 12/04/12 
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If this girl really loves you, then she wouldn't break up with you just because she's going through tough times. All you can do is assure her that you understand how hard it is to lose a loved one, and help her get through that. If you two are meant to be together, then a death in the family shouldn't tear you apart, it should just bring you closer... be her shoulder to lean on

Dammit came to say this haha, well put man.
04:05 PM on 12/04/12 
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Alright so how most of these stories start out, my girlfriend broke up with me in late October. We only dated for a little over a month and a half but it was a very intense relationship from the start. We were pretty serious and she said I love you after only a few weeks. Soon after I said it back which is a big deal for me because I don't take saying that lightly and I don't take relationships in general lightly ( I don't date just to date). Everything seemed to going perfect until a couple days before we broke up. She found out that one of her parents is really sick and most likely won't be getting better. She had known that her parent was sick but it wasn't until then that basically she knew that the outcome wasn't looking positive. We broke up because she said that she needed to figure out how to cope and become more stable and that she couldn't give me one hundred percent right now. Of course I was devastated and still am. I love this girl and feel that we belong together. We still talk all the time and even hang out usually once a week. I've stayed over at her house a few nights and we've kissed one night since we've been broken up. We still sometimes cuddle on the couch when I come over or if I stay over. I let her initiate almost all of the text messages though because I don't want to seem desperate or bother her. But I'm going crazy over here. I seriously sit around and just hope that she'll text me or ask me to hang out ( think Emery-the ponytail parade if you know the song). It's pathetic I know but I just can't ever get my mind off of her. Which leads me the next part...

This breakup wouldn't be as hard on me if I had my group of friends here to hang out with and occupy my mind and time. I lived away from home for college though and just recently moved back so all of my friends are 4 hours away. I seriously have no friends here. All of my old high friends are getting married and having kids and we haven't talked in years except for the occasional happy birthday. The one friend I did have I cut ties with because she tried to sabotage the aforementioned relationship. I did finally get a part time job so that helps a little bit but I just feel like I'm waiting on something that might never come and it keeps me up every single night.

I plan on moving away and going to grad school (if I get accepted) but that wouldn't be until next August. Right now I'm stuck living at home which is already hard for me. I've been used to living on my own for four years and now living at home sucks except for the saving money part. I just really don't know what to do about anything. I want her back more than anything but I don't want to rush her and screw things up or ruin what ever sort of relationship we have right now.

That's the short version ha so if you read all of his, thanks. I just needed to get a few things off my mind since I have no one to talk to about any of this.

Wait, your boyfriend, or your girlfriend broke up with you. I don't understand this.
05:41 PM on 12/04/12 
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Wait, your boyfriend, or your girlfriend broke up with you. I don't understand this.

I assume she's one of those ladies who dates ladies. Crazy world, right?
07:42 PM on 12/04/12 
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I assume she's one of those ladies who dates whoever she happens to like. Crazy world, right?

there ya go.
09:00 PM on 12/04/12 
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Girl on girl action. Oh yeah.
09:00 PM on 12/04/12 
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Also, YOLO.
01:17 PM on 12/05/12 
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Girl on girl action. Oh yeah.

haha I was waiting for a comment like this
02:09 AM on 12/06/12 
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YOLO
11:58 AM on 12/06/12 
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oh wow haha...
07:01 PM on 12/06/12 
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I'm usually an insensitive jackass. that's kinda why my gf breaks up with me every week. Yesterday she was extremely happy that she got accepted into Medical School. I said "congrats" and she complained that that wasn't good enough. She wanted to argue so I sat down to get ready for her long winded battle. That just made her angry and cry and whatnot. Long story short, I suck with emotional shit. I just don't give a damn.
Now to your problem. imo 21 is way too young to be "in love." Most of you loved the person you dated at 13 and promised to be together forever. by thirteen and a half you were dating someone else and forever wasn't very long. You are more in love than ever before. at 16 you are once again in love, and this time really contemplating marriage, wanting a child, etc etc.
(this is the way of thinking people don't like me for, but it's the truth, and it hurts)
I've stated before I have "friends" that were married and divorced twice by 22. So I don't have the same kind of definition of "love" as most of you. Or I have a better understanding of love vs lust than many of you. Therefore I think I can give sound advice. So here it is.

You'll be just as in love with the next person that comes your way. just be patient and wait the couple of months until you find them.
damn that sounds condescending. I can see why people don't like me. I'm an asshole. A honest, righteous, asshole.

I have a sister. she just got out of a relationship (with one of my friends). They lasted a year. Before that she dated another of my friends. Next week she'll probably date another of my friends. She's loved each and every one of them more than the last. She's my sister, I will never call her any names, but imo she's a fucking idiot. It's almost as if I can't tell her apart from her friends.
08:22 PM on 12/06/12 
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I'm usually an insensitive jackass. that's kinda why my gf breaks up with me every week. Yesterday she was extremely happy that she got accepted into Medical School. I said "congrats" and she complained that that wasn't good enough. She wanted to argue so I sat down to get ready for her long winded battle. That just made her angry and cry and whatnot. Long story short, I suck with emotional shit. I just don't give a damn.
Now to your problem. imo 21 is way too young to be "in love." Most of you loved the person you dated at 13 and promised to be together forever. by thirteen and a half you were dating someone else and forever wasn't very long. You are more in love than ever before. at 16 you are once again in love, and this time really contemplating marriage, wanting a child, etc etc.
(this is the way of thinking people don't like me for, but it's the truth, and it hurts)
I've stated before I have "friends" that were married and divorced twice by 22. So I don't have the same kind of definition of "love" as most of you. Or I have a better understanding of love vs lust than many of you. Therefore I think I can give sound advice. So here it is.

You'll be just as in love with the next person that comes your way. just be patient and wait the couple of months until you find them.
damn that sounds condescending. I can see why people don't like me. I'm an asshole. A honest, righteous, asshole.

I have a sister. she just got out of a relationship (with one of my friends). They lasted a year. Before that she dated another of my friends. Next week she'll probably date another of my friends. She's loved each and every one of them more than the last. She's my sister, I will never call her any names, but imo she's a fucking idiot. It's almost as if I can't tell her apart from her friends.

I appreciate your honesty. The thing is though is like I said I don't really date just to date. Besides her I've only ever had semi strong feelings for 2 people in my life and one was unreciprocated. I don't like anyone in that way easily and I definitely don't fall in love easily. It just seems silly to me to give up on fighting for someone I truly want to be with. And I could move on, sure, I could've done that after she broke up with me. I've had opportunities to hook up with people but the thing is that I dont want to move on...
07:22 AM on 12/07/12 
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I appreciate your honesty. The thing is though is like I said I don't really date just to date. Besides her I've only ever had semi strong feelings for 2 people in my life and one was unreciprocated. I don't like anyone in that way easily and I definitely don't fall in love easily. It just seems silly to me to give up on fighting for someone I truly want to be with. And I could move on, sure, I could've done that after she broke up with me. I've had opportunities to hook up with people but the thing is that I dont want to move on...
well you did preface by saying you weren't the datey-fall-head-over-heels-after-a-minute type so most of my rant seems to be pointless. With that said, if she truly felt the same way as you did/do, then she wouldn't have ended it would she? I mean, if the situation were reversed, would you want space from the person you "love?" I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be coddled, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to be left completely alone either.
12:18 PM on 12/07/12 
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well you did preface by saying you weren't the datey-fall-head-over-heels-after-a-minute type so most of my rant seems to be pointless. With that said, if she truly felt the same way as you did/do, then she wouldn't have ended it would she? I mean, if the situation were reversed, would you want space from the person you "love?" I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want to be coddled, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to be left completely alone either.

yeah I mean that's the question I ask myself too, why would she break up with me if she really loved me but unfortunately peoples reason and logic doesn't help a lot of times in these situations. She basically said that she wouldn't want to take out her anger out on me during this time and that's why she needed to learn how to cope appropriately first or hold a grudge on me if something were to happen to her parent while we were together and she hadn't spent every moment with them. She said she could take it being a friend or something since that wasn't as important to her basically. I've gone over everything a million times in my mind. It doesn't all make sense to me but I'm thinking about asking her about "us" fairly soon and seeing if her feelings have changed at all or if she knows yet that she does or doesn't want to be with me in the future. I just don't want to fuck up the thing we have right now so idk really how to approach it.



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