Tbh I don't have any hope for my ex haha. I don't expect or want an apology because nothing would be good enough. I'm sorry yours can't own up. I guess sometimes it takes a while for people to really reflect and realize what they did. I hope some day your ex can so you guys can speak again, if that's what you want of course.
I've been trying to get through to my mom for years and she'll never get it. She can only offer "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sorry for this situation" which makes it so she can faux apologize and absolve herself. Although unlike with my ex I can't just move on cause she's my mom soooo I just sit with all this resentment under the surface. Healthy relationship, what is that??
that's exactly the kind of stuff he's said :/ and i don't know if i want to talk or not, that's the thing, i think until he can truly admit it, i won't want to. this was all via fb message, too. when i explained his behavior he went silent.