So hasty! I saw you're new and likely just eager to up your post count so I didn't really care to write a longer response in the event that you wouldn't read it.
My problem lies with this:
It seems to be contradicted by your statement that you're "only attracted to people who are pretty and feminine." You really believe that that was a choice for you? Not just something you started feeling at adolescence? Sexualities can evolve, sure. The few "heteroflexible" people I know used to identify as straight, until realizing there was more to it and accepting that. But to say that all people are born asexual (i.e. without sexual attraction) and then just up and picked something later in life is absurd. Even if you feel you chose to be attracted to women and perhaps some feminine men, doesn't mean that that's the case for all people. Why do you think there is such an internal struggle with young gay people trying to make themselves straight? It makes more sense for them to have not picked that sexual orientation at all. And what about the people getting murdered for being gay in Africa? You think they just chose to be different and deal with death threats?
It's just a complete slap in the face to hear people say that being gay is a choice because that implies that another choice could have been made to be straight. And it gives credibility to those who try to convert gay people, and to religions who say that being gay is wrong and sinful and that it can be overcome. It's just crazy talk.
First I have to say this post you did is a good argument
Second, I must say I'm using a different definition to the word "brainwashing" than the official definition. By "brainwashing" I mean when a person has allowed something else to change their belief on something. Since I know no other word that better fits the definition I'm using, I just use the word brainwashing because it's the closest I know.
Thirdly, I am convinced, through alleged psychological science to back this claim and self-evidence experience supporting it, that emotions are caused by our belief systems, therefore, if we change our beliefs we will change our emotional reactions. For example, if we believe all girls have cooties if they kiss us, we will feel fear and repulsion every time they pucker up and chase us. But when we get older and we believe the cootie myth isn't true, we don't feel fear, and combined with hormones, we feel attraction and/or lust instead. We can convince ourselves that we are attracted to men or women or trans, and we will feel the emotions. If we like pretty girls because they are pretty, and we meet a guy that is pretty, we will probably feel the same, and those who are taught that being gay is wrong and also felt attraction to that guy will get angry because they feel they were tricked and usually they call them "******!". Also, good experiences can make people want more good experiences(whether is with the same or opposite gender) and bad experiences can make people want to avoid the same situation(whether it was with the same or opposite gender).
Fourth, people will do extreme things just from their beliefs alone. Look at the guy who said he predicted the rapture with numerology and spent over a million dollars just to advertise it on tv, when he was obviously wrong more than once, or radical muslims who blow themselves up to kill others. People will be willing to have a hard life if they believe they are born that way. Fifth, my argument also states that being heterosexual came by brainwashing and by choice, so my argument doesn't make being homosexual look worse or "fixable" no more than being heterosexual. I also believe its the same with being right and left handed, you get used to one and then don't see why you should go back, I don't believe people are born right or left-handed either its all brainwashing.