I strongly believe that a person can train themselves into a new sexual orientation mainly from my own personal experience. I don't believe it was simply dormant. I'll tell you why I believe that. I used to believe everyone was born bisexual and ambidextrous, they just simply went one way or the other. I then tried a self-experiment to try to make myself ambidextrous so I could be like the guitarist Micheal Angelo Batio. I tried doing everything left-handed, opening doors, brushing my teeth, eating my food with a fork in my left hand, writing left hand, playing guitar left hand. I was doing everything left-handed for a whole month, and after that month I realized I had gotten worse at doing those things with my right hand. So I tried to balance it out, brushing my left teeth with my right hand and my right teeth with my left hand, eating with 2 forks, playing guitar right then left handed. And I kept getting better and better with my left hand. Then I hit a road block. I realized my left hand would get sore/fatigued quicker when I would try to use it up to par on the level of my right hand. I reasoned this to be because I had used my right hand muscles so long that my left hand muscles are too weak to keep up from lack of use. I then realized I would have to continue this ambidextrous training routine for probably over a decade in order for my left hand to be at the level of my right hand, and all the criticisms people were giving me "that's stupid! why work on making your left hand better when you could spend the same amount of time making your right hand better?". All of those criticisms started to sink in. And I realized it was a waste of time since I had already found the answer I was looking for: that it's possible. After I changed my mind and stopped trying to become ambidextrous, I realized that I had just been brainwashed into being right-handed... again. Then I stopped believing people were born ambidextrous and that instead they are born not good at either hand. This easily linked to my beliefs on sexuality, that everyone is born without a sexuality, therefore we cannot be born into a sexuality if we are born without a sexuality. Also, if confirmation bias is synonymous to self-evidence, then I consider confirmation bias to be the strongest form of evidence and proof, since documents can be faked and be full of lies.
What do you mean by a sexuality conversion? because I have attempted a conversion and succeeded. I wasn't willing to step out of my comfort zone, instead I JUMPED out of my comfort zone and did something repeatedly that my body was almost violently against, until the burning uncomfortable feeling in my stomach slowly began to disappear and turn into positive emotions. Not many people have the willpower to step out, nonetheless jump out. I also overcame most of my fear, jealousy, and especially anger. Most people never witness me get angry or jealous or afraid. And if I do get angry, its only indignation. But your argument is very good, since it forced me off of the beer analogy this time.
Again, the dexterity analogy isn't good because the ability to train a hand is well documented. Not to mention, you're making a few leaps. It doesn't follow that because handedness can be learned that people aren't born a certain way or without a certain predisposition. If people were equal-opprotunity-dexterious, wouldn't logic dictate that the ratio of right-handed people to left-handed people would be about 1:1 rather than like 5:1 as it is? If there was no biological mechanism behind handedness, the results would be completely random and very, VERY likely wouldn't so heavily lean a certain way.
And confirmation bias is a tendency to only regard evidence that supports your belief, while not giving opposing evidence the same consideration. You've come to a conclusion (that sexuality can essentially be controlled) and hold keen to that notion in the face of contradictions (of which there are many). It's something a LOT of people are guilty of to some extent or another, so it's not a huge
issue in and of itself. But in your case, the evidence you're holding to is really, really bad. "Self-evidence" is generally considered the weakest and most unreliable of evidence. Documents can indeed be faked, but people can lie, be deceived, be confused, be mistaken, or be outright stupid.
Because of how much ambiguity there is surrounding this particular aspect of sexuality, there's very little you can be certain of. There's no reason why I can't argue your bisexuality wasn't just repressed and you can't honestly
tell me otherwise, no matter what you feel. (Feelings, no matter how convicted you are in those feelings ≠ knowledge.) It's as valid an argument as you simply telling me you "chose" it. If anything, my argument is more valid as sexual repression, like the training of one's handedness, is also well documented. The fact that you were "almost violently" against it does seem to suggest repression of some kind.
Tell me, though, how exactly does one change their sexuality? You claim to simply have just done stuff with guys and eventually you liked it. Well, sjb2k1
(whose name I think is Stef...I might've just made that up though), who is a well-known lesbot, has done a bunch of shit with dudes and it didn't do anything for her sexuality. Why? Now, here you might argue it didn't work because she wasn't open to it or something, and this is where your confirmation bias shows its head. You're more interested in bolstering and confirming your own belief rather than honestly considering the alternative, so you rationalize your position in the face of something that seemingly contradicts it. Regardless, though, if you contend her mind wasn't open...how does one open their mind
? It's clearly something remarkably difficult as not many (I'm gonna go ahead and say no one) have done it successfully. So, talk me through the steps towards opening your mind, because it's WAAAAAAAAAAY easier said than done. Then take those steps, have them reviewed and validated by some experts in the field, have your findings published, and earn yourself a Nobel Prize in...whatever.
I feel like I wrote too much. Edit: Oh yeah.