Don't bother. This such an awful attitude to have toward a fan who's simply upset due to missing out on seeing you play. What did I do to deserve being insulted?
I try to find out about all shows that are near me, but it's difficult. What exactly would you have me do? Visit all of your sites regularly and sift through countless Facebook posts? I wish I had that kind of a free time, but I don't.
Dude, go play in traffic or something. If you are too lazy to check for tour dates then you don't deserve to go. Jeff has a great attitude because you are essentially blaming the band for you not knowing about the shows. If you don't have the time to look for dates then you are not a fan. It's really not that hard to check a website for 30 seconds every few weeks or to like the bands on Facebook to get updates. If you don't want to do that, then don't bitch about not knowing about the show.
Don't blame TEN because there isn't some telepathic connection between you and their tour calendar. It is also completely unreasonable to expect AbsolutePunk to update you on every tour going on near you. You have to take some responsibility rather than blaming everyone else.