I'm usually an insensitive jackass. that's kinda why my gf breaks up with me every week. Yesterday she was extremely happy that she got accepted into Medical School. I said "congrats" and she complained that that wasn't good enough. She wanted to argue so I sat down to get ready for her long winded battle. That just made her angry and cry and whatnot. Long story short, I suck with emotional shit. I just don't give a damn.
Now to your problem. imo 21 is way too young to be "in love." Most of you loved the person you dated at 13 and promised to be together forever. by thirteen and a half you were dating someone else and forever wasn't very long. You are more in love than ever before. at 16 you are once again in love, and this time really contemplating marriage, wanting a child, etc etc.
(this is the way of thinking people don't like me for, but it's the truth, and it hurts)
I've stated before I have "friends" that were married and divorced twice by 22. So I don't have the same kind of definition of "love" as most of you. Or I have a better understanding of love vs lust than many of you. Therefore I think I can give sound advice. So here it is.
You'll be just as in love with the next person that comes your way. just be patient and wait the couple of months until you find them.
damn that sounds condescending. I can see why people don't like me. I'm an asshole. A honest, righteous, asshole.
I have a sister. she just got out of a relationship (with one of my friends). They lasted a year. Before that she dated another of my friends. Next week she'll probably date another of my friends. She's loved each and every one of them more than the last. She's my sister, I will never call her any names, but imo she's a fucking idiot. It's almost as if I can't tell her apart from her friends.
I appreciate your honesty. The thing is though is like I said I don't really date just to date. Besides her I've only ever had semi strong feelings for 2 people in my life and one was unreciprocated. I don't like anyone in that way easily and I definitely don't fall in love easily. It just seems silly to me to give up on fighting for someone I truly want to be with. And I could move on, sure, I could've done that after she broke up with me. I've had opportunities to hook up with people but the thing is that I dont want to move on...