God damn it, can someone explain to me why that is true? Does it not show interest if you pursue and make plans yourself?
Edit- Real talk though I'm pretty useless with women and any advice would be great because all advice I get from my friends here just fucking backfires every single time.
If you show any real interest in a particular girl then you have already lost the fight.
Girls don't want a guy that quickly likes them. There's something wrong with that particular guy in her head. He's a loser, he is desperate, and most importantly, he can't get other women. Thus you remain indifferent with her and then she'll force the issue. She won't know that you actually really liked her until shes half naked in your bed. That's the only real way to get a girl. Remain indifferent, stoic, affectionless. Easiest way is to put her in the friendzone first even though you want to plow her. Hug her like a friend. Talk to her like a friend, and most importantly, look at her like a friend. Make plans not dates. Bring other friends. Shes just another friend afterall. This all works like a charm and youll be banging her in a few weeks.