I've got a friend who I've been best friends with for about 10 years. We met when working at the same place, and I know if given the right situation, he's a good, hard worker... but recently he'd had trouble finding/keeping a job. I've done a lot to help him (put together a resume with him, helped him find opportunities/apply) but he hasn't found anything stable yet...
Long story short, he's probably not gonna have a place to live pretty soon, and he's talked to me about staying with me and my girlfriend until he gets on his feet. I told him that I wouldn't say no, but I'd have to talk to my girlfriend about it and there'd have to be some guidelines.
I'm worried that if I let him stay with me, it's going to take him AT LEAST a few months to get enough money together to get a place of his own, and that's best case scenario... He'd have to find a job immediately and keep it and save just about everything for that happen... I don't want to turn him down, cuz he's a good friend and I don't want to create drama, or see him without a place to stay... but honestly he could move out of state and have a place to stay with another friend who has welcomed him with open arms... but he doesn't want to do that (for whatever reason)
I'm also afraid that if I let him stay with me, and he doesn't find work, that at some point I'll have to tell him to leave, and that probably won't wind up going well...
I think we'd be able to get along well enough... He's unable to keep a job because he has had a fairly tough upbringing, doesn't have a lot of education, has health issues, etc... I do however truly believe if he found the right job, he would be able to keep it and even do well there... I've worked with him before and he is a hard worker and doesn't fuck around like lots of other people I've known/worked with.
I agree about giving him a deadline to move out, but I can almost guarantee that unless I gave him a deadline of lets say... i dunno, 6 months, it wouldn't be enough time for him to get the money together to move out... so it seems like I would just be delaying the inevitable
ALSO... as of now, he's broke... I mean he gets food stamps and has been trying to get on disability because of his medical problems, but he's got no money... so I know he can't help out with expenses AT ALL, and I wouldn't really expect him to, but I can hardly feed myself and my girlfriend.
I like the idea of forcing him to leave the house in the morning when we leave, and not allow him back in until we get home.
I think the main issue I have with everything is that I'm afraid that he will be somewhat offended if I don't let him stay, or envoke too many rules... but I've decided that if he can't handle it, then his friendship isn't worth it... I hope that he realizes that our friendship should be stronger than any short term hardships... that being said, I would help him, if I truly believed he was doing everything in his power to help himself, and still needed my help