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01:19 AM on 05/01/13 
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In my head this seems like a very reasonable thing to do. I did it when I was in middle school, and I'm considering doing it again. Upon thinking about it hard for the first time however I realized this sounds insane. Has anyone ever done this before? Or am I on a short list of people waiting to become serial killers...
03:00 AM on 05/01/13 
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Not sure what you mean by changing your personality, as that sounds ridiculous, but if you have something negative brewing inside (your serial killer comment suggests so?), you should probably get to the root of whatever it is and fix it.
05:31 AM on 05/01/13 
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For what reason? Do you notlike who you are? Because that's understandable. Idon't consider doing it to please others unless you're just the asshole to end all assholes.
06:42 AM on 05/01/13 
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its part of life, its normal
07:38 AM on 05/01/13 
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To what extent are you planning on "changing your personality?"

I think it's pretty odd, possibly psychologically damaging, to all the sudden say "I'm going to force myself to look different, act different, do different things, and believe different things starting tomorrow and I'll never be any of what I am today."

I imagine you'd have a number of "who am I" moments with bouts of manic and/or bipolar-like episodes.

If you're saying something like "Tomorrow I'm going to stop being the sarcastic asshole who is too passive for his own good and start being the sincere, assertive but gentle person" I think you'll do just fine.

I could imagine trying to force myself into a few different behaviors, but I'd never be able to completely change from who I am now to someone else.

Why do you want to do this? What are you hoping to accomplish? What's the end goal?
09:10 AM on 05/01/13 
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I don't know why you would want to do that or how you would accomplish it. It can be difficult enough just to change some of your mannerisms.
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I don't think you can really change your personality, per se, but you can change how you act. For example, I have really terrible social anxiety, but I made a conscious decision five years ago that I was going to stop letting it rule my life and have tried to force myself into extroversion. I didn't change that part of my personality, I regulated it. (for the most part-- it's an uphill battle.)

But you're going to have to be more specific. What are you trying to change? (Maybe "modify" is a better word here.)
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Personality is something you're born with, I don't think you can really change it, but yeah you can change how you act and work on yourself.
12:15 PM on 05/01/13 
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To what extent are you planning on "changing your personality?"

I think it's pretty odd, possibly psychologically damaging, to all the sudden say "I'm going to force myself to look different, act different, do different things, and believe different things starting tomorrow and I'll never be any of what I am today."

I imagine you'd have a number of "who am I" moments with bouts of manic and/or bipolar-like episodes.

If you're saying something like "Tomorrow I'm going to stop being the sarcastic asshole who is too passive for his own good and start being the sincere, assertive but gentle person" I think you'll do just fine.

I could imagine trying to force myself into a few different behaviors, but I'd never be able to completely change from who I am now to someone else.

Why do you want to do this? What are you hoping to accomplish? What's the end goal?

I'm not going to change how I act or look at all though. I wouldn't be going so far as to change who I am as a person, but more to change parts of my personality.

I don't think you can really change your personality, per se, but you can change how you act. For example, I have really terrible social anxiety, but I made a conscious decision five years ago that I was going to stop letting it rule my life and have tried to force myself into extroversion. I didn't change that part of my personality, I regulated it. (for the most part-- it's an uphill battle.)

But you're going to have to be more specific. What are you trying to change? (Maybe "modify" is a better word here.)

When I was in middle school, I did what you did, and I just forced myself to be a more outgoing person, and be loud and out there, and I did, and everyone always tells me how different I am now than I was when I was younger.

Basically, I've always been Larry David-like, in the sense that I'm pretty relatively unliked, even though I am liked by people I know? I realized that personality doesn't really work, as I really haven't met a new friend or person since I graduated high school, just because I come off like such an asshole. So I don't want to be "nicer" but I do want to be more likable, whatever that means...
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I'm not going to change how I act or look at all though. I wouldn't be going so far as to change who I am as a person, but more to change parts of my personality.



When I was in middle school, I did what you did, and I just forced myself to be a more outgoing person, and be loud and out there, and I did, and everyone always tells me how different I am now than I was when I was younger.

Basically, I've always been Larry David-like, in the sense that I'm pretty relatively unliked, even though I am liked by people I know? I realized that personality doesn't really work, as I really haven't met a new friend or person since I graduated high school, just because I come off like such an asshole. So I don't want to be "nicer" but I do want to be more likable, whatever that means...

Honestly, I don't think that's a huge problem. The guy I'm dating can come off as an asshole but he's actually the biggest sweetheart deep down under the bravado. I guess, if you're looking to tone that down, be more open with people. I'm not sure if this is your case, but if you use a lot of sarcasm or crass jokes in groups of people, maybe just tone it down a little, and show people your softer side.
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Can kind of relate with the OP. I'm the kind of person who doesn't value small talk nor buy into things that please the masses which has made it difficult to really make any new friends (aside from online) since high school as well. My gf has made lots of attempts to help me be a more easy going and relatable person but it hasn't really worked. I hate to be a pessimist but unless you move elsewhere and position yourself differently you're likely to stay the same for the rest of your life.
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Going by what people are defining "personality" as in this thread it can absolutely change but I don't think you can really do it consciously, at least not without a hell of a lot of effort
05:07 PM on 05/01/13 
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go see a therapist
08:22 PM on 05/01/13 
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This is something I wanted to do so badly in High School. I like to think I have a range, where sometimes I can be super-shy, introverted, and anti-social to other times where I can be happy, outgoing, and ready to party with the world. Its just that when I'm happy and outgoing I tend to say alot of stupid shit thats embarrasing and makes me retreat back into my shell. I tried to change myself when I was younger by being more clever, or more outgoing in general, but instead just acted like a moron (ala blink 182) instead of being witty. Yeah, you just have to work at being happy with yourself. Within..then out.
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I know what you mean.



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