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11:11 PM on 05/10/13 
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I think I have identified the root of my problems in my social anxiety. I have the habit of taking every thing that can be taken negatively in a dark light as opposed to critically observing that its not all about me all the time. Does this make me selfish? I dont think as much as it makes me an anxious pessimist..but I am taking steps in rerouting my thinking and realizing my great qualities over these paranoid thoughts. I am writing this because I see that a lot of people suffer with these problems too. Hopefully I can help some of you with this perspective.
11:16 PM on 05/10/13 
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Are you self-conscious or narcissistic? The thread title suggests one thing, but your paragraph was kind of ambiguous.
11:26 PM on 05/10/13 
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well I think im narrcastic in a negative way because if something goes wrong its always my fault. Or im the problem. Like theres something inherently wrong with me in the social situation but in that sense I am only focusing on myself so that is where it comes from. Another example would be if someone didnt return my call or text they are ignoring me or i did something wrong.. possibly a mixture?
01:12 AM on 05/11/13 
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that's not being narcissistic at all, there's not a negative form of it. It's a specific mental disorder that is diagnosed... what you described is being highly self-conscious which is quite common in people with social anxiety.
01:17 AM on 05/11/13 
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Oh okay well I was just kinda over analyzing i guess thanks for clearing that up!
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well I think im narrcastic in a negative way because if something goes wrong its always my fault. Or im the problem. Like theres something inherently wrong with me in the social situation but in that sense I am only focusing on myself so that is where it comes from. Another example would be if someone didnt return my call or text they are ignoring me or i did something wrong.. possibly a mixture?


Haha you just described me, someone who goes to therapy for social anxiety

I get how you feel. I've often been like "why am I so self-centered/narcisistic always thinking about me and how much my life sucks, wondering what I did wrong when so and so acts this way to me". You can't do that to yourself, though. It's an emotional issue that, at least for me, requires help if it's a daily struggle of yours.

I mean, idk about you 100%, no two people are the same, but for me I just really think negatively of myself, have low self-esteem and just wonder "why would anybody want to hang out with me?". Constantly have social anxiety and get awkward/quiet around people I'm not comfortable with even though I usually don't shut the fuck up around people I do know haha. Some people don't even believe me that I'm shy while others can't believe I talk lol.

Anyway, I suggest finding someone to talk these things out with. I think it really helps. My therapist suggested a social anxiety support group that he runs on campus next semester and I think I'll definitely check it out.
02:08 AM on 05/11/13 
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Haha you just described me, someone who goes to therapy for social anxiety

I get how you feel. I've often been like "why am I so self-centered/narcisistic always thinking about me and how much my life sucks, wondering what I did wrong when so and so acts this way to me". You can't do that to yourself, though. It's an emotional issue that, at least for me, requires help if it's a daily struggle of yours.

I mean, idk about you 100%, no two people are the same, but for me I just really think negatively of myself, have low self-esteem and just wonder "why would anybody want to hang out with me?". Constantly have social anxiety and get awkward/quiet around people I'm not comfortable with even though I usually don't shut the fuck up around people I do know haha. Some people don't even believe me that I'm shy while others can't believe I talk lol.

Anyway, I suggest finding someone to talk these things out with. I think it really helps. My therapist suggested a social anxiety support group that he runs on campus next semester and I think I'll definitely check it out.

Yeah that sounds like something I should do... I just want to relax you know? Its really difficult when you cant enjoy hanging out with peers and people you would like to get to know..I am making progress I think but damn its just aggravating!
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Haha you just described me, someone who goes to therapy for social anxiety

I get how you feel. I've often been like "why am I so self-centered/narcisistic always thinking about me and how much my life sucks, wondering what I did wrong when so and so acts this way to me". You can't do that to yourself, though. It's an emotional issue that, at least for me, requires help if it's a daily struggle of yours.

I mean, idk about you 100%, no two people are the same, but for me I just really think negatively of myself, have low self-esteem and just wonder "why would anybody want to hang out with me?". Constantly have social anxiety and get awkward/quiet around people I'm not comfortable with even though I usually don't shut the fuck up around people I do know haha. Some people don't even believe me that I'm shy while others can't believe I talk lol.

Anyway, I suggest finding someone to talk these things out with. I think it really helps. My therapist suggested a social anxiety support group that he runs on campus next semester and I think I'll definitely check it out.
Wow, you just described me!
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I mean, idk about you 100%, no two people are the same, but for me I just really think negatively of myself, have low self-esteem and just wonder "why would anybody want to hang out with me?". Constantly have social anxiety and get awkward/quiet around people I'm not comfortable with even though I usually don't shut the fuck up around people I do know haha. Some people don't even believe me that I'm shy while others can't believe I talk lol.

Anyway, I suggest finding someone to talk these things out with. I think it really helps. My therapist suggested a social anxiety support group that he runs on campus next semester and I think I'll definitely check it out.
I have a similar but different problem. I generally like myself, but I sometimes fall into the belief that for whatever reason nobody else does. and so while I may have confidence in something, I never go for it because I'm sure it's destined to fail anyway.
01:13 PM on 05/11/13 
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i think that my fear of rejection is essentially a species of needlessly self limiting, and incredibly twisted pride, but that realization/opinion has yet to be especially helpful.
09:14 AM on 05/13/13 
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Oh okay well I was just kinda over analyzing i guess thanks for clearing that up!

No problem! I was hoping I didn't seem harsh or something, I was worried it seemed that way when I read it back. I have really bad social anxiety and what you said is basically me to a T, so that's how I'm able to tell the difference.



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