wake up i'm calling you
Female - 26 Years Old
i am in a somewhat similar predicament. my mom's boyfriend, they've been together for like 15 years but never married, is dying and literally has like 2-3 months left, if that. she has no clue if she can afford to live in her apartment anymore and will have no where to go if she can't. but she also has a terible gambling problem and i know that she makes plenty enough money to live there, but she is awful with money. so, like you, i feel terrible. but at the same time, i've seen her do the same shit all the time throughout my whole life, so i no longer feel the urge to help her, when she clearly isn't helping herself and doesn't want to acknowledge that there is a problem. so yeah, it really sucks, but i would say save your money, focus on yourself, and let her make her own decisions and mistakes. you're the kid, you shouldn't have to be taking care of her fuck ups.