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02:43 PM on 09/20/13 
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After MUCH thought, I bought an engagement ring today. I knew it was perfect! I'm beyond excited, but also nervous as all fuck.

Any married / engaged dudes got any advice for getting over the nerves? Ladies are more than welcome to chime in also.
04:07 PM on 09/20/13 
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yeah, don't do it.
04:15 PM on 09/20/13 
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Try taking a couple shots
05:04 PM on 09/20/13 
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Try taking a couple shots

I might resort to that. It'll be time to bring in the good stuff
05:10 PM on 09/20/13 
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After MUCH thought, I bought an engagement ring today. I knew it was perfect! I'm beyond excited, but also nervous as all fuck.

Any married / engaged dudes got any advice for getting over the nerves? Ladies are more than welcome to chime in also.

I'm a jeweler so I see people get engaged everyday, it's perfectly normal to be a little nervous! Don't fret too much over it, I'm sure she'll say yes! Do something cute in your presentation of the ring, one that really sticks out in my mind that a customer of ours did was put it in a box of chocolates.

For all of the guys on here, if you're thinking about getting an engagement right feel free to message me for advice! I can tell you what to get and what to avoid.
08:49 PM on 09/20/13 
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This.

No better way to rid yourself of engagement jitters than by not getting engaged.
09:45 PM on 09/20/13 
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I'm a jeweler so I see people get engaged everyday, it's perfectly normal to be a little nervous! Don't fret too much over it, I'm sure she'll say yes! Do something cute in your presentation of the ring, one that really sticks out in my mind that a customer of ours did was put it in a box of chocolates.

For all of the guys on here, if you're thinking about getting an engagement right feel free to message me for advice! I can tell you what to get and what to avoid.

I will probably take you up on that. She's the kind of girl that wouldn't care if it's elaborate and planned or spontaneous as we're walkin down the street. I think I'm suckering into the world's standards and psyching myself out.
02:36 AM on 09/21/13 
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Married dude here. Is it the actual proposal you're bricking it about or just the whole engagement thing in general?

If it's the former, I found having a plan of action quite helpful. I didn't produce an itinerary with timings or anything like that, but I mentally planned out how the evening would go and walked myself through it a couple of times. I'm someone who finds that visualising stuff before it happens really helps. Though I guess it does depend on the person - it might make you more nervous haha. But hopefully not.
07:33 AM on 09/21/13 
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I agree with Tbone here, you're 24 you should probably hold off on that.
07:38 AM on 09/21/13 
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I'd suggest telling someone that you trust. It helps a lot.
07:44 AM on 09/21/13 
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I found having a plan of action quite helpful
This. Plan it out, make sure you have plenty of time and you have people to help if needed. Do not leave anything to last minute. It'll make the whole thing more stressful.
08:40 AM on 09/21/13 
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Married dude here. Is it the actual proposal you're bricking it about or just the whole engagement thing in general?

If it's the former, I found having a plan of action quite helpful. I didn't produce an itinerary with timings or anything like that, but I mentally planned out how the evening would go and walked myself through it a couple of times. I'm someone who finds that visualising stuff before it happens really helps. Though I guess it does depend on the person - it might make you more nervous haha. But hopefully not.

It's the former! So that should help a lot. We've been best friends for 10 years, dating for almost 3, so I'm not nervous about committing to her at all. I suppose it's just a hardcore case of the pre-game jitters! Thanks man! How'd you do it?
08:41 AM on 09/21/13 
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This. Plan it out, make sure you have plenty of time and you have people to help if needed. Do not leave anything to last minute. It'll make the whole thing more stressful.

You sound experienced! What was your game plan, if you don't mind my asking. I'm definitely starting now and giving myself plenty of time
09:11 AM on 09/21/13 
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You sound experienced! What was your game plan, if you don't mind my asking. I'm definitely starting now and giving myself plenty of time
I left work way early so I had plenty of time to get to her place. Made sure everything was with me, so I had everything packed in the car the night before, got there and set up. I could have probably gotten there 2 hours later than I did, but I was so prepared it was good. I had a song paused and ready to play. I just made sure I knew where she was, I told her I was at the mall waiting for a friend and would come up for dinner when he showed. This meant I was bored so she could call me when she got out of work and we could chat. So I knew her whereabouts, gauging how much time until she showed up at her place from work. Worked perfectly. Knowing where she was made a huge difference. So see if there's a way you can do that if your plan is to surprise her rather than go out to dinner and propose.
09:46 AM on 09/21/13 
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This is super cute. Good luck! - you'll definitely have to update us after it happens :)



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